Well well, congrats!
Right about now, you have a million things wizzing through your head. And that’s fine! But know one thing, you’ll be fine! There were others before you and there will be others after you.
We’ve created this website for exactly this reason. A few years ago, I found out I was going to be a dad, and I freaked out. Not because I was not expecting it (I enjoyed practicing for it), rather, because of the hundred and one things that came with the news: feeding, sleeping, entertaining, keeping this little human alive…
What on earth do I need to do with this?!
And of course, everybody around me took an intolerable pleasure in freaking me out with mountains of information that would ultimately scare the cr*p out of me. But you know what I quickly figured out? Nobody actually has a clue. Your child is your own and you will deal with him your way!
But what about all these extra responsibilities? What on earth am I going to do? How am I going to deal with this? I have 0 clues about raising a child, never done that before! So I boiled it down to the bare minimum:
Keep it alive for the first 18 years, without going broke. The rest is logistics!
And you know what, if he gets to say please and thank you, well, I have overachieved the expectations!
Disclaimer: This is an oversimplification of the task at hand but it provided me immense comfort. Do not be under any illusion that your parenting job ends in 18 years 🙂
So, my advise is this. Don’t listen to anyone (not even myself) and take it one step at a time. Everything will fall into place naturally.
It’s only fair to mention…
Throughout this website, I use the pronouns ‘he’ and ‘she’ intermittently. You know the day and age we live in, I would hate to offend anyone! 🙂
We try and keep things as simple as possible. Written in plain language, cutting out any bullsh*t and avoiding the marketing trap that you’re about to enrol into — you won’t believe the amount of marketing and gadgets out there for new parents.
Keep it simple!
Whenever you’re unsure, try and think back of how your parents used to deal with things. They sure as h*ll did not have the plethora of gadgets we have today and we turned out (for the most of us) quite okay! Do you really need this ultra sonic, bluetooth controlled, baby monitor which warms up your milk?
Now, take a deep breath and carry on.
Click here to find out what the next twelve months will look like and here to find out the kind of cr*p people will tell you to try and scare you. In any case, you will be fine. 🙂